In the new year we want to have a baby: how to start off on the right foot?

Is the new year the one you want to start your search for a pregnancy? Here are our tips to start off on the right foot and… in the stork’s beak!

Have you made a New Year’s resolution to have a baby?

Yes? You are probably realizing that it is a somewhat stressful journey, not as simple as you may have imagined, but which can be rewarding from various points of view.

What do you have to do? Here are some useful tips for beginners.

Joint decision

The decision to have a baby must be shared. Both of you must be convinced of this because the parenting journey could prove to be not easy and require a lot of resources (not just physical!). So talk about it openly, let your doubts and fears come out and share them. Together try to discover the “secrets” of fertility.

Knowing your body is essential for a woman to understand when she is fertile, but it can be definitely very interesting and surprising for a man too, who can thus understand even more how wonderful the human body is and all that process that leads to conception and to the birth of a new life.

Give yourself reasonable time

There are couples who are alarmed after one or two months gone empty. Others who have been trying unsuccessfully for a child for years without ever doing a follow-up check.

Before starting the research it would be important to do preconception tests , to understand, among other things, if the woman is covered by some important vaccinations (such as rubella) or if she is immune or not to toxoplasmosis , in order to take the necessary precautions.

It is essential to have had a pap test and a gynecological check-up during which the gynecologist recommends taking folic acid .

Once the search has begun, the general rule is to keep trying for a baby for about a year (or for 6 months if the woman is over 36) and then start doing some follow-up tests .

About 80% of couples are pregnant within a year of targeted attempts.

However, if you already know that you suffer from endometriosis or that you have micropolycystic ovary , or other conditions that undermine fertility, it is important to speak immediately with your gynecologist.

Be honest with yourself

The path to becoming a parent is not always easy. Maybe you’ve been trying to avoid pregnancy for years and now, what baby you so much want is late in coming.

When a couple runs into obstacles that seem insurmountable, not only is faced with their own questions that are not answered, but also real interrogations by third parties, friends and family.

You don’t have to be ashamed or hide the problem. The only way to find a solution is first of all to recognize and accept the problem in order to then embark on a conscious path to overcome that obstacle. And also manage the questions of others in the best way, which can be quite annoying

Put your pride aside and let yourself be helped to achieve your goal.


It is very easy to say: “Do the right thing.” But what is the right thing to do?

Among the first things is certainly spending more time with your partner which is very different from sharing the same roof and the same bed.

Try to spend quality time together . The more time you spend with each other, the more you will want to be with him, the more frequent relationships will be and the greater the probability of pregnancy.

Change your perspective: you don’t have to be “there”, but be there for the other.

Eat well and pay attention to your shape

You know by now very well that what you eat can affect your fertility .

We have also explained it clearly in our book: “ Fertility Recipes ” and we have talked about it frequently here and in interviews with experts.

In particular in this one with Dr. Gemma Fabozzi of B-Woman:

Why do we insist so much?

Simply because you have to think of your body as a fruit plant. A healthy tree produces good fruit. To make him feel good, he must receive the right nourishment and must be cared for.

Similarly, our body must be nourished both physically and emotionally.


The chances of pregnancy depends on your fertility. A woman’s fertility (but also a man’s fertility, albeit less pronounced) decreases with age.

Age-related decline in fertility is not reversible, at least for now, we have no power over that.

However, there are factors determined by our lifestyle that can accelerate the decline in fertility, for both men and women. The most important factors are smoking, alcohol abuse and stress.

Therefore aim to reduce and eliminate smoking, alcohol and reduce daily stress.

Something new

The daily routine is hectic, everything is done in a hurry, we leave early in the morning to go to work, we go home in the evening and every single minute is optimized to try to fit all the various activities.

This frenzy certainly doesn’t help the search for a child. So, among the good resolutions, add that of finding time to dedicate to yourself.

It could be your sport that you abandoned a long time ago, you could rediscover an old hobby or join a class that helps the body and mind like yoga . The aim is to have a relaxing time that helps to detach the mind from work problems. We all deserve it!

Pay attention to health

Always keep your well-being at heart with periodic checks to monitor your general health.

In addition to eating healthy and keeping fit, you should occasionally get checked for diseases such as diabetes and high blood pressure, as these can affect fertility in a negative way.


The goal you have set for yourself is important and you must stay focused, distractions are always lurking.

The biggest distraction from the goal is yourself: you will have to find a balance between your career, your social life and your desire to have a child.

In the stork’s beak!

Kathryn Barlow is an OB/GYN doctor, which is the medical specialty that deals with the care of women's reproductive health, including pregnancy and childbirth.

Obstetricians provide care to women during pregnancy, labor, and delivery, while gynecologists focus on the health of the female reproductive system, including the ovaries, uterus, vagina, and breasts. OB/GYN doctors are trained to provide medical and surgical care for a wide range of conditions related to women's reproductive health.

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