Gemini and the “terrible two”

Many define the age of two as that of rebellion : two-year-olds acquire personality, learn the effect of saying “no”, savor the taste of knowing how to impose themselves and the taste of defying the rule. There you go: multiply that by two and think moms of twins 🙂

So it often happens to see a sort of dachshund gang going around the house, two petty thieves who wander around suspiciously, perfectly united, and looking for any object among those forbidden to touch, sometimes even waiting for the adult gaze to rest on them to measure its reaction. And once one is done, taken up and removed, the other follows the same moves, because both must measure the risk of danger . Exhausting, but adorable in their being inseparable even in mischief 🙂

From the first steps of the year to the breathtaking races of the two years, a breath passes. We turn around for a moment and they are inches taller, with smarter looks, faster little legs and many, many, many questions. Sometimes they chase each other joyfully, dance and sing, sometimes they tug and yell at each other, then finally they seek each other out and make up. They tell each other, discuss each other, ask questions and give answers, often copying the ways of doing of adults and often repeating the indications of adults as slogans, only to then always go their own way 🙂

With the two years we go through the great conquests : we learn the balance on the first steps and on the balance bikes without pedals, we face the first attempts at pottying, we discover the power to contrast the adult and we also discover how to win him back, with the big tears on her cheeks, the moans and kisses of forgiveness, passing from crises of anger to moments of touching tenderness.

Thus, we pass from the scene at the supermarket with screaming children on the floor and an embarrassed mum unable to handle them (yes, it will happen to you too :-)) to moments of profound tranquillity, such as when in the evening you tuck yourself in and get lost in those same big eyes in which to rediscover innocence and unconditional trust, sensations capable of dissolving any rigidity. And those little hands passed over your cheeks and through your hair will also make you love that they are so extreme in their desires, reactions and their discovery of the world by groping and with an energy that is sometimes destabilizing.

There are no great tips to manage this age, if not try to live the daily discovery with them, enjoy the amazement and joy of small things, immerse yourself in their dimension and discover that it is still part of us, teach the rules, with patience and firmness, with constancy and never without motivation , because they are bombarded with stimuli and are much more receptive than we were at their age.

The extraordinary nature of the twins, and even more so in this stage of two years, lies in witnessing their growth as a couple, made up of their own discoveries and those of their brother, with perhaps different maturation spurts, but with paths that intertwine in a indissoluble.

And so… quickly, you mums and dads too, to run after this extraordinary energy made into a child, or rather into a child 😉

Kathryn Barlow is an OB/GYN doctor, which is the medical specialty that deals with the care of women's reproductive health, including pregnancy and childbirth.

Obstetricians provide care to women during pregnancy, labor, and delivery, while gynecologists focus on the health of the female reproductive system, including the ovaries, uterus, vagina, and breasts. OB/GYN doctors are trained to provide medical and surgical care for a wide range of conditions related to women's reproductive health.

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