Even motherhood is faced #withoutstainwithoutfear
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in all these years it’s how strong women are and how women are able to support themselves and create support groups in difficult or very emotional situations.
I have proof of this every day by managing this site made up of great emotions, both positive and negative. In recent years we have seen so many children come to light, and consequently so many mothers, we have rejoiced but also suffered . Because the path that leads to being mothers can sometimes be difficult, long and full of unforeseen events that are not always pleasant.
I don’t want to sin of feminism but I believe that women have by nature an indomitable willpower. As is her stubbornness. The pursuit of motherhood, for example, is a time when stubbornness comes out completely. My personal experience, as well as that of many other women like me, is proof of this.
When my husband and I decided to have a baby, well, it didn’t start that we worked hard, taken by the enthusiasm and the desire to become “pregnant” as soon as possible. Then there was the blowout of miscarriage at 9 weeks pregnant. At that moment I felt my dreams and hopes collapse on me. I could have wallowed in my grief for weeks, and at first I did. But it didn’t make me feel better, quite the contrary. From that moment a new me was born, I would like to say “Fearless”, but it wasn’t like that. The fears were there and always are: every new adventure you undertake brings them with you but just don’t give them the opportunity to take over.
From that moment I decided that my life had to change and that I shouldn’t fix myself too much on the idea of having a child because otherwise I would have entered an endless vortex. I began to rebuild my existence brick by brick. That’s where my blogger journey started, attending a course to become an expert in Information Technology; always from there my first blog was born and during the exam period, despite the stress of studying, I saw that positive that after 9 months would have made me mother of Veronica, not without complications and not “without fear”.
Starting again always requires courage and even a pinch of recklessness . A bit like being a modern Joan of Arc juggling a flood of unexpected events but aware that they can do it. You must always believe in it to the end, the determination of the times can be that extra weapon that allows you to reach the goals you set. Eight years ago when I was in the hospital pervaded by a feeling of emptiness, if they had told me that today I would be a mother of 2 children and that I would have created a job with which I try to help other mothers and women, I would not have believed it! And instead I made it step by step Along the way I fell again, at 8 weeks pregnant, I cried and got back up carrying those wounds healed but not erased because they will always be part of me anyway.
Kathryn Barlow is an OB/GYN doctor, which is the medical specialty that deals with the care of women's reproductive health, including pregnancy and childbirth.
Obstetricians provide care to women during pregnancy, labor, and delivery, while gynecologists focus on the health of the female reproductive system, including the ovaries, uterus, vagina, and breasts. OB/GYN doctors are trained to provide medical and surgical care for a wide range of conditions related to women's reproductive health.